Loving Mother and Her Affection

In life, we generally come across various forms of relationships like Father-son, husband-wife, love, friendship etc but the most dearest and hearty relation of all is of a mother and her child relationship. The bond of mother and child is purest and holy. Mother is next to GOD. She is the Gem who knows everything. A warm and affectionate touch of mother will give you immense pleasure and you will feel as you are in heaven.
The relationship of a mother and a child carries deep emotions and feelings within it and it is always nurtured by love, affection and care. Mother is the one who gives birth to the child, bought him up, support him when he need someone the most, guide him in taking right decisions, stand against crowd and favors his child if he is right, always stands behind her in his thick and thin, biggest sharer, suffer a lot of pain from the time of birth of a child till he become adult but never expect anything in return. Whenever you feel sad and tensed, she will embrace you and all your worries will come to an end.
The most respectful and adorable person on this earth is “Mother” Even if you will fight with her, argue with her, pour you anger on her; she will forgive you for everything with a gentle smile on her face and without thinking for a second. Is there any relationship better than this relation where there is no ego, no fears, no hard feelings, just the feeling of love and affection? In today’s generation people get so much busy in their lives that they hardly find time for their mother, they don’t even remember the things she has done for them to make their life smooth and comfortable. A person should always remember the efforts made by the mother for his betterment and should give utmost respect and care to his mother, as she really deserves it. He should let her mother know what she mean to him and she will be the most happiest person on this whole world.
We celebrate mother’s day once in a year but tell me, do we need any special day to show our gratitude to our mother who has devoted and sacrifice her whole life for us. If should make her feel that she means world to us each day that will be true gift to her.
If you really want to express your love to your mother, don’t wait for long now and don’t hesitate, go to her and give a hug and tell her “Mother you are next to GOD, thanks for everything you have done for me. You are the best person on this whole earth and I really mean it, you have serve your whole life for us and you deserve the best of everything. I love you mother”
You can also express your feelings to your mother in some different way. You can take the help of poems and quotes easily available on Internet, which will help you in expressing your feelings in better way. Dedicate the poems to your mother and show your respect, affection and gratitude to her and you will see she will keep on smiling.

MOTHER-DAUGHTER CONFLICT

A mother brought her daughter to a counselor. The mother’s grouse was her daughter spent all her pocket-money on purchasing cosmetics and also spent a lot of time dressing up. She was fed up of advising her daughter and wanted the counselor to help her find a solution.

The daughter is a teenager and so it is natural to keep preening. She is at a stage in life where she wants to experiment with makeup. She is also into dressing up always. This is natural for her age as many teenagers are always looking at themselves in a mirror all the time.

When this was pointed out to the mother, she said she understood this concept but she felt her daughter was overdoing it. In fact last week the daughter’s face had broken into a rash due to inferior quality of the cosmetic products. She also said her daughter was spending all her pocket money only on cosmetics.

The mother was asked how she knew her daughter was spending all her money on cosmetics, she said her daughter was no longer buying any gifts for her friends or even greeting cards. This she felt was not right as the deal was her daughter would use her pocket money to take care of these things. Earlier she used to save up and buy books, or small jewelery trinkets, but now she did not.

She was worried about the effect of all that makeup on the tender skin. Moreover she felt her daughter was spending too much time with dressing up and this was eating into her academics. She said the young girl had scored good marks, but could get better percentage if she devoted more time for her studies than standing in front of the mirror. The mother came across as a very loving and concerned mother. She understood the need of her child for dressing up, but she was also worried with the change in her daughter’s behavior.

The counselor asked the young girl if what her mother said was true. The young girl admitted she spent money on cosmetics, that an inferior quality face cream had produced rash and that she had no money for gifts. But she qualified this by saying she was interested in painting, so she would gift her friends one of her paintings.

She was asked why she needed so much make up since she was good looking? Her answer was all her friends tried on make up, they would discuss intelligently about the products available in the market and so she did not want to be left out. She also said she was over weight and to avoid teasing, she would spend more time with makeup and dressing. She wanted to look good, to distract attention from her weight.

So her body image was not good and she needed to have her self esteem boosted a little. When she was asked if she could concentrate on losing weight, she reluctantly agreed. She was asked what her favorite form of exercise would be, she said cycling. When she was asked if she would cycle to school, she readily agreed.

It was suggested she could tone up her diet a little and coupled with her exercise, she could really shed all that puppy fat. She appeared mollified and realized it was important to lose weight in an intelligent manner and this can be achieved only through hard work.

It was explained to her how her mother was anxious about the cosmetics and whether she could contribute to removing her mother’s worry. She agreed to stick to branded products. Her mother wanted her to reduce her purchases, this too was agreed by her daughter.

Asked about her studies, she agreed she could do better, but her grades had not fallen. The counselor wanted to know what her hobbies were. She said fashion designing and jewelery making. She was asked if she wanted to learn and go for a class. She agreed and said she would love it. The mother was asked if she agreed to this step, and she agreed. She was aware of her daughter’s passion, so she was only too glad to send her for class.

Her mother then sprang a surprise. She told her daughter that if she adhered to her part of the bargain, and after a review in a month’s time, she would take her daughter for a pedicure and manicure. The daughter was happy and agreed to stick to her part of the bargain. If they both stuck to their part in the bargains, there would be obvious peace at home.

The counselor then asked them the consequences if the daughter tripped up, the mother said she would have no choice but cut the pocket money in half. She would be forced to do it, even though she would not enjoy it and the beauty parlor trip would be canceled. If the mother did not stop picking on her, she would have to give up watching her favorite serial for a week. The daughter felt the consequences were fair.

So the visit resulted in getting the daughter to realize that her behavior upset her mother and this in turn led her to yell at her daughter. So to maintain peace at home, she had to conform to certain behavior and change certain behavior. And since she had agreed to the changes, she had to stick to it, otherwise face the logical consequences.

The mother daughter duo left promising to carry out their part in the bargain for a month, it was win-win for both, and they both were aware of the consequences of sliding. They were no longer bickering, instead decided to take in an ice cream on the way home.